I just took a blogger class about how to work with brands. The class was really interesting, and had some great takeaways. What really resonated me with though was the mandate that a blog is not a diary and brands do not want to see it. That really bothered me, and keeps rolling around in my mind. While Quintessential Miss is not a diary, I do write about my personal experiences and what I have learned. My hope is that anyone who suffers from PTSD, depression, and/or anxiety finds some sort of solace knowing they are not alone. I do not have all the answers, in fact I have had to learn to lean on others and come to terms with different definitions of strength.
My blog may appear to be all over the place, but I am also wanting my art to imitate life. Life is messy, and scary, and wonderful. Social media has been giving me a complex in all honesty, but it also led me to one of the best discoveries. I can only be me. I am not the ideal of perfect, I do not know everything, I am not photogenic. Our home is perfect for us with it's mix of gifts from our families, and things we have picked up. Our picture frames haven't had pictures in them for the 2 years we have been here, and I have no idea when they will.
I have been thinking long and hard about what message I want to send, and my why. I want to write about beautiful, every day life. I want to update you on our new puppy, and how I deal with panic attacks, and how I dress for work. If we can have shows that showcase 30 something bartenders/waitresses who just start crap with each other (looking at you Vanderpump Rules), and Southern Charm where train wrecks probably look better, then just possibly someone may be interested in my life. Don't get me wrong though, I totally love those shows!
My ultimate goal though is to help. As with my last post featuring JORD and my favorite color, I am kind of late to discovering what I am good at. The answer actually had been staring at me for my entire life. I love to help and I love to make people happy. I love giving gifts, and writing notes, and going out of way way to help people. I would do anything for my family, even if it stresses me out. S and I had a weekend retreat as part of our marriage journey, and when asked what he loved most about me he said he loves how giving I am. Maybe I should have had my light bulb moment then, but I think I had to figure it out for myself. I need to feel like what I am doing is helping someone or making someone's life a bit easier. I don't have grandiose dreams of curing the world of all it's ills, but if I can help my corner of the world a little bit then I will consider my goal accomplished.
So where does that leave this blog? Pretty much where it has always been, but better. I was under a ton of self inflicted pressure to find my niche and figure out exactly who my audience is. While I was putting all that pressure on myself, I shied away from writing on here or making it a priority because what if I failed? But with the little I have done with the blog, I have had several people reach out to me and thank me for my honesty. So really I can't fail, I have already succeeded. I have found my partner in crime and we have a ton of fun things coming your way. So stay tuned, grab a Diet Coke, and be ready!!
For those that have stuck with me and read everything, thank you. For the brands that are ok with imperfection and have worked with me.... I am humbled.