What Not to Say to the Ones You Love

I was listening to the radio this morning and they read an article from Psychology Today about things you shouldn't tell your loved ones. Old saying like "time heals all wounds" and such. The one that stood out and that I respectfully disagree with is "everything happens for a reason". I use that all the time, both for things that have happened to me and things that happen to my loved ones.

My car accident was horrific and not something that I would wish on even my worst enemy, or the driver that caused it all. I was accepted to the school of my dreams, and then didn't attend because it cost too much. There are jobs that were missed, events I didn't attend, and people that have left my life. All things that have happened for a reason.

If any of those things had changed, it would have taken me longer to meet the love of my life. I know in my very soul that he is my other half so we are destined to be together. I also know if I had gone to college out of state, then our timeline would be shorter. I wouldn't have been able to meet him when I did, and grow together. I would have had to wait much longer to kiss his handsome face and to go on adventures with the man of dreams. And that is totally unacceptable.

Had I not been hit, I wouldn't have known how strong I am, nor learned humility and compassion. Every single thing that I have done or haven't done, everything that happened through my own volition or not led to me where I am today. And I wouldn't change it. Everything is a lesson, and it could come across as something we treasure or something we needed to learn from. This has nothing to do with the stars, but it has everything to do with what you make of it. You have to make the decision to take the chance, or don't. Either way you're where you need to be.

Are there any paths that you wish you hadn't taken? Or a lesson you learned that changed everything?